A. One way to think about different sleep solutions and help you choose one is to organize them into three groups as described in Blog Posts 19 and 25 and in more detail in my book:
- 1 “No-cry” sleep solutions for babies Teach Self-Soothing
Many hands: involve others, not just mother to soothe to sleep; get father on board!
Drowsy but awake when put down to sleep
Many naps: expect and accept many brief and irregular naps in infancy.
Move bedtime slightly earlier based on drowsy signs
Check and console
Sound machine, room-darkening curtains
Positive routines plus faded bedtime with response cost
Control the wake-up time
- 2 “Maybe-cry” sleep solutions
Move bedtime much earlier
Parent-set bedtimes, regular bedtimes, earlier bedtimes
Sleep Rules and silent return to sleep
Day correction of bedtime problems
- 3 “Let-cry” sleep solutions
Extinction: with or without cap, with or without parent presence
B. Here is another way to think about choosing a sleep solution partially based on two parenting styles:
- ‘Limit Setting’ parenting style: You are comfortable with soothing your baby to drowsy but awake state; then, putting baby down in crib and leaving the room.
- If you practice limit setting and neither parent has anxiety or depression symptoms, choose extinction.
- If you practice limit setting and either parent has anxiety or depression symptoms, choose graduated extinction.
- If you practice limit setting and both parents have anxiety or depression symptoms, choose check and console or fading.
- ‘Infant Demand’ parenting style: You always want to hold your baby, sleep with your baby, or stay with your baby until baby is in a deep sleep.
- If you practice infant demand, choose fading or other no-cry sleep solutions.
More information about sleep solutions and baby sleep advice::
When to start sleep solutions (Blog Posts 49, 57, 67, 102–107, and 115)?
Do sleep solutions harm your child (Blog Posts 24 and 71)?
Community sleep consultants (Blog Post 27).
Do sleep solutions really work (Blog Post 133)?