Sleep is serious business. If you have not already done so, please read Blog Posts 1 through 5 that describe how sleep is important and beneficial, from the point of view of the United States of America Department of the Army. A major point, emphasized by the Army, is that more sleep produces more benefits for Soldiers. Also, more sleep produces more benefits for children. Even small amounts of extra sleep help (Blog Post 6). At every age!
Another point made by the army is “A consistent and regimented schedule of sleep- and wake-related activities [Sleep Regularity] helps to lock in other biological systems associated with circadian rhythms. These rhythms include hormone release, digestion, muscle strength, and cardiovascular performance. Circadian rhythms act in tandem with the need to sleep which builds throughout the day. These rhythms optimize the process of falling asleep, staying asleep, and ensuring sleep quality.” And “Although some Soldiers [Children] may require a little more or a little less sleep, for the vast majority of Soldiers [Children] a steady diet of regular sleep is needed to sustain normal levels of brain function and health indefinitely.”
The Army is clear about who is in charge: “Planning for sleep is a leader [Parent] competency”
For young children in day care, dual-career families with long commutes, and older children with scheduled activities, it may be impossible to catch that exact magical drowsy state for going to sleep. An alternative strategy is to maintain a reasonably regular sleep schedule. Here is the evidence from published studies in peer-reviewed scientific journals:
These studies show that irregular bedtimes are harmful. For young children, when parents establish regular bedtimes, the harm is reversible.
Hi Dr Weissbluth
I have been blessed to have a baby who has slept through the night 6pm-7am every night since 9 months old and who has napped for 3 hours a day since she dropped to one nap. This all came about because of the advice I received from you through your book and also online here on your blog.
She has recently (last week) started child care for the first time. On both of her visits, she slept just over an hour at the centre. She was put in her cot today for her nap (at home) but slept only 45 minutes then spent the next hour tossing, turning and crying out. It is so unlike her and now I am worried that her naps are going to be like this going forward. She slept like normal overnight after the first visit, but tonight she has woken up crying at 8pm (but seems to have pits herself back to sleep).
My question is- should we persist with our routine (12-3ish nap, 6pm-7am bedtime) or delay her nap or bring forward her bedtime (it’s already so early)?
Any advice would be appreciated!
The brief nap at child-care may lengthen over time, or not. Because she is getting less daytime sleep, he bedtime has to be moved earlier to prevent bedtime battles, night wakings, or both.
What time do you enter your home after picking her up at child care? Does she go 5 days a week? The answers may modify my advice.
I realise I wrote “baby” in my previous post- she is actually a toddler now (19 months!)
Thanks for your response. She goes twice a week, Monday and Wednesday. We have been picking her up at 5 and getting home about 5:15.
Here are some not mutually exclusive considerations that may apply to your situation:
Maybe on Monday and Wednesday, you’ll have a super-early falling asleep time (e.g., 6:00pm) to compensate for short naps at child care. Or if impossible, a little earlier bedtime twice a week.
Maybe on the days that she is not in child-care, the bedtime will be 10-20 minutes earlier to prevent cumulative sleepiness from short naps twice a week at child care; and/or
Maybe on week-ends you will be very careful to protect naps and have an early bedtime based on drowsy signs.
Does this help?
Thank you for your suggestions- I will give these a go and hopefully she will adjust to her new schedule. I really appreciate your advice!